When I was in high school, my best friend and I used to talk about going to college together and how much fun it was going to be. However, that future was shattered when my friend told me, during the summer before college, that she was moving to Milwaukee, Wisconsin because life in Miami was getting a bit difficult. I, of course, was crushed and very upset. Not only were we not going to college together like we planned, but the only true best friend I ever had was leaving.
Towards the end of my first Fall Semester, I get a call from her and she tells me that she might be moving back, but not to get my hopes up. Things weren't going that well in Milwaukee, so they thought they might as well come back home. After that, I began to hope for the best. A few weeks later, after I talked to her on the phone again, it became official that my best friend was coming back. After that phone call, I was so happy and excited that I jumped until my legs hurt. I'm an only child, and my friend is the closet person to a sister I've ever had, so it feels like a family member I love very much is going to be nearby again. Now, the things my friend and I used to talk about during high school can still come true.
Monday, November 24, 2008
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Beverly Hills Chihuahuas
I haven't been to the movies in a long time. The last movie I remember seeing was "The Dark Knight." That's how long it's been. With everything that's going on with our economy, I'm a little hesitant when it comes spending money just so I can see a movie. But on Saturday, I went to see the cutest movie, "Beverly Hills Chihuahuas." I wouldn't normally go to a movie theater to see that kind of movie (the screaming kids tend to ruin the experience), but my godmother and mother just wanted to go to the movies as a way to hang out. So we just chose the movie we had the most interest in seeing. Thankfully, since it's been out for a couple of weeks, it wasn't going to be completely filled with noisy kids, so it won against the Madagascar sequel. But "Beverly Hills Chihuahuas" was adorable. It's about a spoiled, pampered, chihuahua being left with an irresponsible girl who takes the dog to Mexico. Since the dog is annoyed with the lack of proper attention, she goes on her own and accidentally gets kidnapped. The whole movie is about this chihuahua trying to find a way home while the people who kidnapped her are trying to get her because of her diamond collar. This movie would've been tacky and overdone if it was played by humans, but with cute dogs as the cast, it couldn't go wrong. Anyone you loves dogs will probably love this movie, however, some men won't find it so great.
Sunday, November 9, 2008
When A Relationship Should End
On Friday, a friend of mine was going through a small crisis, she and her boyfriend broke up after 2 years of being together. This is the same girl from my previous blog "If there isn't any physical contact, is it still considered cheating?". I'll call my friend Crystal, and her now ex-boyfriend Derek.
At first, Crystal and Derek's relationship was sizzling. I remember times when I felt awkward just being in the same room with them when they started their daily, loving rituals. Sometimes, they were so passionate during their kissing rituals that I was tempted to stand in front of them so the nosy people passing by would stop staring at them. That's how hot it was.
But after several months, the sizzle died out, not completely, but just a bit, which is normal. After that, they were no longer considered a new couple, they were known as a pair.
After about a year into the relationship, the signs that proved that their relationship wasn't going to last started showing up. First, it started with him not wanting to talk about his future with her. Crystal believed Derek was "the one", and she continuously asked him where they would be in 10 years, but he never wanted to talk about it. "I don't think about that stuff," Derek would say, or "I don't want to talk about that right now." That is a bad sign. If a relationship is going to work, both parties should see each other in their future. Crystal says that she wished she had paid more attention to that little part in their relationship.
Then another sign showed up. Crystal and Derek weren't spending as much time together outside of school as they did in the beginning. Derek claimed that he didn't like many of her friends (except me) and that he would rather hang out with his friends than be with her and her friends. Ouch! That's a really bad sign. And when they did get together outside of school, he would tell her to just come to his house. They no longer made plans to see each other and when they did, it was something as easy as "If you want to hang out, then come over." That's another bad sign. When you no longer make an effort to see each other and have a good time, then there is something wrong.
After a while, another sign that doomed their relationship reared its ugly head. Crystal and Derek were always fighting. They would have a argument about something as stupid as a television program and wouldn't speak to each other for a couple of days. This is normal if it happens now and then, but they fought all the time, which is a very bad sign. And one of the reasons they fought was because they were fighting for control. "Why do you always have to hold the remote control?" "Why don't you let me choose what we're going to eat?" "Why don't you hang out with my friends?" These questions about control in their relationship, how ever small, isn't a good sign, and these questions led to arguments that kept them from speaking to each other for a couple of days. Crystal said she would've paid attention to those problems, but then he would call her or come to her with a teddy bear or flowers and apologize, and then she would forget about their former problems.
And another sign that I wrote about in the blog "If there isn't any physical contact, is it still considered cheating?," Chrystal began to compare Derek to a friend she was beginning to like a little too much. That is a bad sign as well. I don't believe she was cheating, but it was a definite sign that she wasn't happy. When you start comparing each other to other people, it means you are finding flaws in your partner that you really don't want and you're unconsciously looking for someone who doesn't have those flaws. That's a bad sign. If they're unhappy with each other early in the relationship, then there is no way they're going to make it in 5 years.
All these signs were in front of Crystal, but she refused to see it. Even though she loved Derek, she was unhappy. She tried telling herself that every relationship has those problems and that it was normal, but it wasn't good normal. Many relationships go bad and those problems are usual, but not good. Just recently, she started to realize that and she ended it. When he didn't fight and just shrugged, she knew she had made the right decision. Now she's going to try to start a relationship with the friend she was comparing Derek to. I hope that relationship will be better than her relationship with Derek.
At first, Crystal and Derek's relationship was sizzling. I remember times when I felt awkward just being in the same room with them when they started their daily, loving rituals. Sometimes, they were so passionate during their kissing rituals that I was tempted to stand in front of them so the nosy people passing by would stop staring at them. That's how hot it was.
But after several months, the sizzle died out, not completely, but just a bit, which is normal. After that, they were no longer considered a new couple, they were known as a pair.
After about a year into the relationship, the signs that proved that their relationship wasn't going to last started showing up. First, it started with him not wanting to talk about his future with her. Crystal believed Derek was "the one", and she continuously asked him where they would be in 10 years, but he never wanted to talk about it. "I don't think about that stuff," Derek would say, or "I don't want to talk about that right now." That is a bad sign. If a relationship is going to work, both parties should see each other in their future. Crystal says that she wished she had paid more attention to that little part in their relationship.
Then another sign showed up. Crystal and Derek weren't spending as much time together outside of school as they did in the beginning. Derek claimed that he didn't like many of her friends (except me) and that he would rather hang out with his friends than be with her and her friends. Ouch! That's a really bad sign. And when they did get together outside of school, he would tell her to just come to his house. They no longer made plans to see each other and when they did, it was something as easy as "If you want to hang out, then come over." That's another bad sign. When you no longer make an effort to see each other and have a good time, then there is something wrong.
After a while, another sign that doomed their relationship reared its ugly head. Crystal and Derek were always fighting. They would have a argument about something as stupid as a television program and wouldn't speak to each other for a couple of days. This is normal if it happens now and then, but they fought all the time, which is a very bad sign. And one of the reasons they fought was because they were fighting for control. "Why do you always have to hold the remote control?" "Why don't you let me choose what we're going to eat?" "Why don't you hang out with my friends?" These questions about control in their relationship, how ever small, isn't a good sign, and these questions led to arguments that kept them from speaking to each other for a couple of days. Crystal said she would've paid attention to those problems, but then he would call her or come to her with a teddy bear or flowers and apologize, and then she would forget about their former problems.
And another sign that I wrote about in the blog "If there isn't any physical contact, is it still considered cheating?," Chrystal began to compare Derek to a friend she was beginning to like a little too much. That is a bad sign as well. I don't believe she was cheating, but it was a definite sign that she wasn't happy. When you start comparing each other to other people, it means you are finding flaws in your partner that you really don't want and you're unconsciously looking for someone who doesn't have those flaws. That's a bad sign. If they're unhappy with each other early in the relationship, then there is no way they're going to make it in 5 years.
All these signs were in front of Crystal, but she refused to see it. Even though she loved Derek, she was unhappy. She tried telling herself that every relationship has those problems and that it was normal, but it wasn't good normal. Many relationships go bad and those problems are usual, but not good. Just recently, she started to realize that and she ended it. When he didn't fight and just shrugged, she knew she had made the right decision. Now she's going to try to start a relationship with the friend she was comparing Derek to. I hope that relationship will be better than her relationship with Derek.
Monday, November 3, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
My Halloween Costume
When I was younger, I would dress up for Halloween every year. It was something I looked forward to, the whole act of dressing up and being someone or something I wasn't was a lot of fun. But that yearly tradition ended the moment I entered middle school. The last time I dressed up for Halloween was in 5th grade because it was the last time I was allowed to wear my costume at school. What good is dressing up for Halloween when no one will really see you? Ever since then, I stayed home with a bowl of candy for the trick-or-treaters resting on my lap, watching scary movies in my night clothes. Until this year. Thankfully, that dull, stay-at-home tradition was broken when my uncle decided to throw a Halloween party. So, for the first time in a long time, I got to dress up for Halloween.
Since I haven't dressed up in a long time, I had no idea what I was going as. I was planning to stop by Party City or a costume shop and find my outfit. But before I could do that, my mother came home with a red bustier and that led to many ideas. Before I knew it, I had my costume ready, put together with things I already had in my home. I was going as a Goth girl.
I wanted so badly to wear my costume to school on Halloween. I wanted to do what I did in elementary school, but I didn't. I knew that many people wouldn't dress up that day and I'm not someone who likes to stand out in a crowd, I like to blend in. Plus, my costume is a little provocative, and after class I have to take the bus and walk home. It would be a bit embarrassing.
I tried to upload some pictures of me in my costume, but for some reason it wasn't working. So, I guess this is another year my classmates won't see my costume, but at least I had one.
Since I haven't dressed up in a long time, I had no idea what I was going as. I was planning to stop by Party City or a costume shop and find my outfit. But before I could do that, my mother came home with a red bustier and that led to many ideas. Before I knew it, I had my costume ready, put together with things I already had in my home. I was going as a Goth girl.
I wanted so badly to wear my costume to school on Halloween. I wanted to do what I did in elementary school, but I didn't. I knew that many people wouldn't dress up that day and I'm not someone who likes to stand out in a crowd, I like to blend in. Plus, my costume is a little provocative, and after class I have to take the bus and walk home. It would be a bit embarrassing.
I tried to upload some pictures of me in my costume, but for some reason it wasn't working. So, I guess this is another year my classmates won't see my costume, but at least I had one.
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